Hadith ~ A woman is married for four things

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (May Allah exalt his mention and protect him from imperfection) said: “A woman is married for four things: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty or for her piety. Select the pious, may you be blessed!”. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Commentary:
Mentioned in this Hadith are the various reasons why we choose our wife. Another Hadith tells us that he who marries his wife for her money or her family will finally become their slave. Whoever marries ONLY for her beauty will find all his troubles will come from this beauty. But he who chooses his wife for her chastity will be at peace which is the fundamental basis of life. But this does not mean that a woman cannot be chaste and at the same time beautiful and from a good family. Only a pious woman is in the true sense faithful and obedient to her husband who has himself good conduct. Such a couple not only lead a happy life but its future generation is also brought up on the right lines with the help of such a woman, otherwise you risk spoiling the future generations. For this reason, while selecting a wife, one should give preference to religion over all other qualities.

Riyaadiss-Saliheen (The Meadows of the Righteous)
By Imam An Nawawi
Chapiter 45, Page 121, No 364

5 thoughts on “Hadith ~ A woman is married for four things

  1. As Salamu Allaikum,
    Is there anyway to get this hadith and commentary in arabic?
    Jazakalahu Khairan

    Amanda
    Salam

    • Source: Sahih Muslim 1466

      Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim

      عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ عَنْ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ لِأَرْبَعٍ لِمَالِهَا وَلِحَسَبِهَا وَلِجَمَالِهَا وَلِدِينِهَا فَاظْفَرْ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ

      1466 صحيح مسلم كتاب الرضاع باب استحباب نكاح ذات الدين

  2. Pious wife will be a good mother and brings the family closer to deen that’s why holy prophet s.a.w said to choose pious wife. Other worldly things have no connection with Allah.

  3. Is there away you can show me the hadith to support this —> “Another Hadith tells us that he who marries his wife for her money or her family will finally become their slave”

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